Thursday, November 20, 2008

Follow the Yellow Brick Road

Don't I wish. I'm looking for the yellow brick road to take me to the wizard who will hopefully send me back home, because I'm obviously living in an alternate reality. But the truth is I know I am dealing with things that lots of other people deal with on a daily basis, and worse. Do you ever get confused with how you are supposed to react or respond to family when you know that no matter what, it's gonna either come out wrong, be perceived wrong or in some instances, send you running for the hills for fear of losing your head? "Off with her head!" they'd say.

I have so many burning questions and the severe desire to just vomit my problems all over the web, but perhaps that wouldn't be the right way to go about sensitive situations. I have more of a need to free myself from burdens then to perhaps blab anything.

Some things seem so cut and dry, but when it comes down to action, or reaction, it just isn't that simple. How do you help people who don't want to help themselves? How do you love someone, but put up healthy boundaries at the same time? What about the innocent that are involved, do you just turn away? Is it correct to just mind my own business, watch people fall apart....for what? To say I told you so? No. I told you so isn't the point. The point is when they fall apart, I fall apart because I care about them. But at the same time, I pull away because it's in the best interest of some to keep some distance.

It's all very confusing.

BTW, my first revolution will be to reveal my true self! More on that later.


dizzblnd said...

It's a hard thing to do. I have 2 great-nephews ages 5 and 3 that live 45 minutes away. I haven't seen them since the youngest was born. Long story short, The mother is a young 20 something. My nephew (their father) and her fight constantly. She lives with her mom.. they all yell at each other and the boys constantly, call them brats.. its a bad situation, but not physically abusive (that I know) I can't bear to see them because I can't stand the situation they are in. I feel like a bad Aunt, but there isn't a whole lot I can do. I feel your pain. If you figure out the answer PLEASE share. Hang in there :)

kateykates said...

dizzblnd: Thanks, I know there are other people who deal with the same things, it's just no one really talks about it.

Tamara said...

Hmmm... it all sounds very confusing indeed!

And now I have that song stuck in my head... "We're off to see the wizard, the Wonderful Wizard of Oz!"

It never is cut and dried with family, but unfortunately we sometimes have to just dig our heels in and make a decision anyway. Easier said than done, right?

Mama2hre said...

Please know that I will be praying for you! We've had, and are having, some tough times in my husbands family. It's never easy. Hang in there! It looks like your bloggy land friend are very supportive! :)

Being Brazen said...

Does sound confusing...

I look forward to you revealing your "true self"

Vodka Mom said...

I am So distracted by the yellow brick road. I can't stop singing the damn song.

Howver, I know what you are talking about. You want to protect and help, but some people only learn after they've failed.

kateykates said...

Tarara- You are so right.

Mama2hre- Thanks for your prayers, that really means a lot to me. And Yes! Everyone here is sooo supportive. You are all awesome!

Being brazen- me too!

Vadka Mom- I know, the song, it's plagued me too. Yes, too many of us have to get to the end of ourselves before we decide to change.

Kitty Cat said...

It sounds difficult and confusing. I'm not sure what the situation is, but I'm sure you'll handle it the best way you can. Intriguing about revealing your identity!